{"id":2612,"date":"2024-02-22T17:19:23","date_gmt":"2024-02-22T17:19:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mariposaproject.eu\/?page_id=2612"},"modified":"2024-02-23T10:02:10","modified_gmt":"2024-02-23T10:02:10","slug":"lezione-4-creare-un-ordine-interno","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/mariposaproject.eu\/it\/self-coaching-lesson-plans\/lezione-4-creare-un-ordine-interno\/","title":{"rendered":"Lezione 4: Creare un ordine interno"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; locked=&#8221;off&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;18px&#8221; header_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_2_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font_size=&#8221;41px&#8221; header_3_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h2><sup><a href=\"#note1\">Lezione 4: Creare un ordine interno[1]<\/a><\/sup><\/h2>\n<h3>Introduzione:<\/h3>\n<p>L&#8217;obiettivo di questa lezione di coaching di auto-aiuto \u00e8 quello di aiutarti a riflettere su diversi elementi della tua vita e a creare un &#8220;ordine interno&#8221; delle cose. A questo scopo ti invitiamo a lavorare con l&#8217;aiuto di una fiaba popolare, &#8220;Madre Holle&#8221;, e a seguire i passi della simpatica figliastra per raggiungere l&#8217;obiettivo di ottenere un &#8220;bagno d&#8217;oro&#8221; di Madre Holle. Lavorare su noi stessi attraverso una storia \u00e8 un compito emozionante, ma non \u00e8 affatto semplice. In una fiaba, l&#8217;ordine viene ristabilito alla fine, l&#8217;eroe della storia intraprende un viaggio generale e passa a una fase successiva di autosviluppo.<\/p>\n<p>Questo \u00e8 anche il nostro compito: interpretare le svolte e i &#8220;codici&#8221; della fiaba per la nostra vita, trovare i passi che ci aiuteranno a diventare una figlia d&#8217;oro invece che una figlia sporca.<\/p>\n<p>Prima di iniziare il lavoro, assicurati di avere<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; tempo sufficiente: almeno 45-50 minuti di tempo indisturbato<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; uno spazio sufficiente e sicuro per lavorare senza interruzioni e senza essere disturbata nel tuo processo<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; \u00e8 possibile utilizzare questo strumento di pianificazione da soli o, se hai una persona di fiducia, puoi anche invitare altri a farlo con te.<\/p>\n<h3><\/h3>\n<h3><\/h3>\n<h3><\/h3>\n<h3>Obiettivi:<\/h3>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;1_2,1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; locked=&#8221;off&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_blurb title=&#8221;Aiutarti a riflettere sulle diverse aree della tua vita.&#8221; image=&#8221;https:\/\/mariposaproject.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/cropped-colour-vertical.png&#8221; icon_placement=&#8221;left&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.23.1&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][\/et_pb_blurb][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_blurb title=&#8221;Attivare la cura interiore di s\u00e9&#8221; image=&#8221;https:\/\/mariposaproject.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/cropped-colour-vertical.png&#8221; icon_placement=&#8221;left&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.23.1&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][\/et_pb_blurb][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.23.1&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;18px&#8221; header_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_2_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font_size=&#8221;41px&#8221; header_3_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<h3>Tempo necessario:<\/h3>\n<p>almeno 45 minuti, a seconda dei tempi e delle esigenze personali<\/p>\n<div class=\"et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_7  et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_light\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_text_inner\">\n<p><span>Puoi scaricare gli esercizi di questa lezione<\/span><span>\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/mariposaproject.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/mariposa_r2_lesson_4.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">QUI<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_text quote_border_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;18px&#8221; link_font=&#8221;||||on|||#F3932D|&#8221; link_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; header_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_2_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font_size=&#8221;41px&#8221; header_3_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h2>Madre Holle Esercizio 1: Preparazione al lavoro con una fiaba &#8211; allestimento della scena<\/h2>\n<p>Quando si lavora con una fiaba, ti invitiamo a preparare uno spazio piacevole in cui lavorare. Magari metti una bella musica, accendi una candela, preparati un t\u00e8. Stai per intraprendere un viaggio all&#8217;interno della fiaba, quindi \u00e8 bene che tu prepari un&#8217;atmosfera da fiaba intorno a te.<\/p>\n<p>Ti invitiamo anche a preparare tutti gli strumenti che ti serviranno per lavorare con le domande che ti verranno poste in seguito. Avrai bisogno di carta e penna, e potresti usare matite colorate, penne, pennarelli, ecc.<\/p>\n<p>Leggi tutti i passaggi per sapere come procedere nelle fasi successive.<\/p>\n<h2>Esercizio 2: Preparazione al lavoro con una fiaba &#8211; lettura della fiaba<\/h2>\n<p>Cosa riesci a tirar fuori dalla fiaba?<\/p>\n<p>Quando iniziamo a lavorare con noi stessi attraverso la fiaba di Madre Holle, prima ascoltiamo o leggiamo la storia, poi sediamoci, chiudiamo gli occhi e lasciamo che lo stato d&#8217;animo della fiaba ci inondi&#8230; e rispondiamo ad alcune domande. Leggi le domande prima e pensaci dopo aver letto la fiaba!<\/p>\n<p>Pensa!<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; Riesci a trovare un colore nel racconto? Portatelo con voi!<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; Riesci a trovare un odore nel racconto? Portatelo con voi!<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; Dove ti trovi nella storia? Chi c&#8217;\u00e8 con te? Qual \u00e8 il tuo compito in quel luogo?<\/p>\n<p>Scrivi le tue risposte! Quanto il tuo compito in quel luogo \u00e8 legato a ci\u00f2 che devi fare nella tua vita? Pensa in modo metaforico.<\/p>\n<h3>Madre Holle<sup><a href=\"#_ftn1\" name=\"_ftnref1\"><span><strong>[2]<\/strong><\/span><\/a><\/sup><\/h3>\n<p>C&#8217;era una volta una vedova che aveva due figlie; una era bella e laboriosa, l&#8217;altra brutta e pigra. La madre, per\u00f2, amava di pi\u00f9 quella brutta e pigra, perch\u00e9 era sua figlia, e cos\u00ec l&#8217;altra, che era solo la figliastra, era costretta a fare tutti i lavori di casa ed era la Cenerentola della famiglia. La matrigna la mandava ogni giorno a sedersi vicino al pozzo sulla strada principale, a filare fino a farsi sanguinare le dita. Un giorno le cadde del sangue sul fuso e, mentre la ragazza si fermava davanti al pozzo per lavarlo, il fuso le usc\u00ec improvvisamente di mano e cadde nel pozzo. La ragazza corse a casa piangendo per raccontare la sua disgrazia, ma la matrigna le parl\u00f2 duramente e, dopo averla rimproverata violentemente, le disse sgarbatamente: &#8220;Visto che hai lasciato cadere il fuso nel pozzo, puoi andare tu stessa a riprenderlo&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>La ragazza torn\u00f2 al pozzo senza sapere cosa fare e alla fine, in preda all&#8217;angoscia, si tuff\u00f2 in acqua seguendo il fuso. Non ricord\u00f2 pi\u00f9 nulla fino a quando si svegli\u00f2 e si ritrov\u00f2 in un bellissimo prato, pieno di sole e con innumerevoli fiori che sbocciavano in ogni direzione. Cammin\u00f2 per il prato e si imbatt\u00e9 in un forno pieno di pane e le pagnotte le gridarono: &#8220;Portaci fuori, portaci fuori, o ahim\u00e8, saremo ridotti in cenere; siamo stati cotti molto tempo fa&#8221;. Allora prese la pala del pane e li tir\u00f2 fuori tutti.<\/p>\n<p>And\u00f2 un po&#8217; pi\u00f9 avanti, finch\u00e9 arriv\u00f2 a un albero libero pieno di mele. &#8220;Scuotimi, scuotimi, ti prego&#8221;, grid\u00f2 l&#8217;albero, &#8220;le mie mele sono tutte mature&#8221;. Cos\u00ec scosse l&#8217;albero e le mele le caddero addosso come pioggia; ma continu\u00f2 a scuoterlo finch\u00e9 non ne rimase nemmeno una. Allora raccolse con cura le mele in un mucchio e riprese il cammino.<\/p>\n<p>Poi arriv\u00f2 a una casetta e l\u00ec vide una vecchia che si affacciava con dei denti cos\u00ec grandi che fu terrorizzata e si volt\u00f2 per scappare. Ma la vecchia la chiam\u00f2: &#8220;Di che cosa hai paura, cara bambina? Resta con me; se farai bene i lavori di casa mia, ti render\u00f2 molto felice. Devi stare molto attenta, per\u00f2, a rifare il mio letto nel modo giusto, perch\u00e9 vorrei che lo scuotessi sempre per bene, in modo che le piume volino dappertutto; poi dicono, laggi\u00f9 nel mondo, che sta nevicando, perch\u00e9 io sono Madre Holle&#8221;. L&#8217;anziana donna parl\u00f2 cos\u00ec gentilmente che la ragazza si fece coraggio e accett\u00f2 di mettersi al suo servizio.<\/p>\n<p>Aveva cura di fare tutto secondo gli ordini della vecchia e ogni volta che rifaceva il letto lo scuoteva con tutte le sue forze, in modo che le piume volassero come tanti fiocchi di neve. La vecchia era di parola: non le parlava mai con rabbia e le dava ogni giorno carne arrosto e bollita.<\/p>\n<p>Cos\u00ec rimase con Madre Holle per un po&#8217; di tempo, ma poi cominci\u00f2 a diventare infelice. All&#8217;inizio non riusciva a capire perch\u00e9 si sentisse triste, ma alla fine si rese conto di avere una gran voglia di tornare a casa; allora cap\u00ec di avere nostalgia di casa, anche se stava mille volte meglio con Madre Holle che con sua madre e sua sorella. Dopo aver aspettato un po&#8217;, and\u00f2 da Madre Holle e le disse: &#8220;Ho cos\u00ec tanta nostalgia di casa che non posso pi\u00f9 stare con voi, perch\u00e9 anche se sono cos\u00ec felice qui, devo tornare dalla mia gente&#8221;. Allora Madre Holle disse: &#8220;Mi fa piacere che tu voglia tornare dalla tua gente e, dato che mi hai servito cos\u00ec bene e fedelmente, ti porter\u00f2 io stessa a casa&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Poi condusse la ragazza per mano fino a un&#8217;ampia porta. Il cancello fu aperto e, mentre la ragazza lo varcava, una pioggia d&#8217;oro le cadde addosso e l&#8217;oro le si appiccic\u00f2 addosso, tanto che ne fu ricoperta da capo a piedi. Questa \u00e8 la ricompensa per il tuo impegno&#8221;, disse Madre Holle e, mentre parlava, le porse il fuso che aveva lasciato cadere nel pozzo. Il cancello fu poi chiuso e la ragazza si ritrov\u00f2 di nuovo nel vecchio mondo, vicino alla casa di sua madre.<\/p>\n<p>Quando entr\u00f2 nel cortile, il gallo che era appollaiato sul pozzo chiam\u00f2:<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Chicchirich\u00ec! La tua figlia d&#8217;oro \u00e8 tornata da te&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Poi entr\u00f2 dalla madre e dalla sorella che, essendo cos\u00ec riccamente ricoperta d&#8217;oro, le diedero un caloroso benvenuto. Raccont\u00f2 loro tutto quello che era successo e, quando la madre sent\u00ec come aveva ottenuto le sue grandi ricchezze, pens\u00f2 che avrebbe voluto che la sua brutta e pigra figlia andasse a tentare la fortuna. La ragazza si punse un dito e infil\u00f2 la mano in un cespuglio di spine, in modo da far cadere un po&#8217; di sangue sul fuso; poi lo gett\u00f2 nel pozzo e si tuff\u00f2.<\/p>\n<p>Come sua sorella, si svegli\u00f2 nel bel prato e lo percorse fino a raggiungere il forno. &#8220;Tirateci fuori, tirateci fuori, o ahim\u00e8, saremo ridotti in cenere; siamo gi\u00e0 stati cotti da tempo&#8221;, gridarono le pagnotte come prima. Ma la ragazza pigra rispose: &#8220;Credete che mi sporcher\u00f2 le mani per voi?&#8221; e prosegu\u00ec. Dopo poco arriv\u00f2 al melo. Scuotimi, scuotimi, ti prego; le mie mele, tutte, sono mature&#8221;, grid\u00f2. Ma lei si limit\u00f2 a rispondere: &#8220;Che bella cosa chiedermi di fare, una delle mele potrebbe cadermi in testa&#8221;, e prosegu\u00ec.<\/p>\n<p>Finalmente giunse a casa di Madre Holle e, poich\u00e9 aveva sentito parlare di quei grossi denti dalla sorella, non ne ebbe paura e si impegn\u00f2 senza indugio con la vecchia. Il primo giorno fu molto obbediente e laboriosa e si sforz\u00f2 di compiacere Madre Holle, pensando all&#8217;oro che avrebbe ricevuto in cambio. Il giorno dopo, per\u00f2, cominci\u00f2 a tergiversare sul lavoro, e il terzo giorno fu ancora pi\u00f9 oziosa; poi cominci\u00f2 a rimanere a letto la mattina e si rifiut\u00f2 di alzarsi. Peggio ancora, trascur\u00f2 di rifare bene il letto della vecchia e dimentic\u00f2 di scuoterlo per far volare le piume. Madre Holle si stanc\u00f2 presto di lei e le disse che poteva andarsene. La ragazza pigra ne fu felice e pens\u00f2 tra s\u00e9: &#8220;L&#8217;oro sar\u00e0 presto mio&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Madre Holle la condusse, come aveva fatto con la sorella, fino all&#8217;ampia porta; ma mentre la stava attraversando, invece della pioggia d&#8217;oro, le piovve addosso un gran secchio di pece. Questa \u00e8 la ricompensa per i tuoi servigi&#8221;, disse la vecchia e chiuse il cancello. Cos\u00ec la ragazza pigra dovette tornare a casa coperta di pece, e il gallo del pozzo la chiam\u00f2 appena la vide:<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0&#8216;Chicchirich\u00ec! La tua sporca figlia \u00e8 tornata da te&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Chicchirich\u00ec<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a href=\"#_ftnref1\" name=\"_ftn1\"><span>[2]<\/span><\/a> This story was taken from: The Red Fairy Book by Andrew Lang<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;18px&#8221; link_font=&#8221;||||on|||#F3932D|&#8221; link_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; header_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_2_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font_size=&#8221;41px&#8221; header_3_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; locked=&#8221;off&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h2>Esercizio 3: Creare un ordine interiore &#8211; lavorare con la fiaba<\/h2>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;3_4,1_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;3_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;18px&#8221; link_font=&#8221;||||on|||#F3932D|&#8221; link_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; header_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_2_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font_size=&#8221;41px&#8221; header_3_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h3>Passo 1: Il sangue sulla scheggia<\/h3>\n<p>L&#8217;eroina di questa storia \u00e8 la bella figliastra, che lavora sodo ed \u00e8 gentile. Tuttavia, \u00e8 lei che si taglia le dita con la scheggia, in modo che questa si insanguini. La scheggia, che \u00e8 uno strumento per fare il filo, pu\u00f2 essere intesa come il &#8220;filo della vita&#8221; di una persona.<\/p>\n<p>La brava ragazza lavora sodo, ma anche in questo caso il suo lavoro non viene apprezzato. \u00c8 ferita, sofferente e\/o senza speranza, oltre che stanca.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/mariposaproject.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/mariposa-lesson-4-immagine-1.png&#8221; title_text=&#8221;mariposa-lesson-4-immagine-1&#8243; align=&#8221;center&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;18px&#8221; link_font=&#8221;||||on|||#F3932D|&#8221; link_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; header_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_2_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font_size=&#8221;41px&#8221; header_3_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p>Hai provato in qualche momento della tua vita la stessa sensazione? La provi anche adesso? Pensa a questo. Quali sono le cose che &#8220;ti tagliano le dita&#8221;, &#8220;ti fanno sanguinare&#8221;?<\/p>\n<p>Puoi anche sederti e iniziare a scrivere tutto ci\u00f2 che ti viene in mente. Puoi iniziare a scrivere con l&#8217;inizio di queste frasi:<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Ci\u00f2 che mi fa sentire che sto sanguinando \u00e8&#8230;&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Sono stanca di &#8230;..&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8221; Mi sento esausta perch\u00e9&#8230;&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Dopo aver scritto, datti un po&#8217; di tempo. Chiudi gli occhi e immagina come sarebbe svegliarsi in un bel prato di primavera\/estate. Cerca di sentire la brezza del vento, gli odori, immagina i colori.<\/p>\n<p>Puoi trascorrere qui tutto il tempo che vuoi.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;3_4,1_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; locked=&#8221;off&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;3_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;18px&#8221; link_font=&#8221;||||on|||#F3932D|&#8221; link_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; header_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_2_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font_size=&#8221;41px&#8221; header_3_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h3>Fase 2: I pani e il forno<\/h3>\n<p>Dal campo la ragazza si dirige verso il forno del fornaio, pieno di pane.<\/p>\n<p>Il pane pu\u00f2 essere inteso come la principale risorsa per le persone. Rifletti!<\/p>\n<p>Che tipo di risorse, cose, strumenti hai nella tua vita! Cosa possiedi? Che cosa usi? Puoi pensare a cose materiali (come attrezzature, libri, vestiti, strumenti o altro), o ad altre cose che consideri importanti (come hobby, progetti, idee):<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/mariposaproject.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/mariposa-lesson-4-immagine-2.png&#8221; title_text=&#8221;mariposa-lesson-4-immagine-2&#8243; align=&#8221;center&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; locked=&#8221;off&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_text ol_type=&#8221;lower-latin&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;18px&#8221; link_font=&#8221;||||on|||#F3932D|&#8221; link_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; header_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_2_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font_size=&#8221;41px&#8221; header_3_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Ci sono alcuni pani che sono gi\u00e0 troppo cotti. Quali sono gli elementi della tua lista che non sono pi\u00f9 utili per te? Forse un tempo lo erano, ma ora stanno solo rubando spazio e tempo. <br \/>Puoi sbarazzarti di questi elementi. Ragiona bene.<\/li>\n<li>Ci sono alcuni pani che non sono ancora pronti, che devono ancora essere cotti. Quali sono gli elementi della tua lista che non hanno ancora raggiunto il loro pieno potenziale? Che desideri sviluppare ulteriormente? Come?<\/li>\n<li>E ci sono pani che sono semplicemente perfetti. Quali sono le risorse materiali e non materiali su cui puoi fare leva?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Datti tempo a sufficienza. \u00c8 possibile stampare la pagina da colorare alla fine della lezione e riflettere sulle domande mentre si colora.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;3_4,1_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; locked=&#8221;off&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;3_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;18px&#8221; link_font=&#8221;||||on|||#F3932D|&#8221; link_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; header_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_2_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font_size=&#8221;41px&#8221; header_3_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h3>Fase 3: Raccolta delle mele<\/h3>\n<p>Il passo successivo sulla strada della ragazza laboriosa \u00e8 la raccolta delle mele. Pensiamo alle mele come a delle relazioni!<\/p>\n<p>Pensa al tipo di relazioni che hai con le altre persone. 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Non sono pi\u00f9 buone, nutrienti, ma allo stesso tempo distruggono altre relazioni. Quale consideri in questa categoria? Quanto \u00e8 possibile separarle o dividerle?<\/li>\n<li>Ci sono relazioni che vanno bene cos\u00ec come sono. \u00c8 anche un piacere pensare a loro, e sono gratificanti. Ti riempiono di gioia. Inseriscile nella seconda categoria e pensa a loro come a delle risorse in caso di necessit\u00e0.<\/li>\n<li>Ci sono relazioni che non sono ancora mature. Bisogna dare loro il &#8220;sole&#8221; per farle maturare. Quali sono queste relazioni? Come le coltivate per farle diventare buone e soddisfacenti?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;3_4,1_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; locked=&#8221;off&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;3_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_text ol_type=&#8221;lower-latin&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.23.1&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;18px&#8221; link_font=&#8221;||||on|||#F3932D|&#8221; link_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; header_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_2_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font_size=&#8221;41px&#8221; header_3_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h3>Fase 4: scuotere le piume<\/h3>\n<p>L&#8217;ultimo posto che la brava ragazza sta raggiungendo \u00e8 la casa di Madre Holle. C&#8217;\u00e8 ancora del lavoro da fare: scuotere il letto (piumoni), finch\u00e9 le piume non cadono, provocando la gioia della gente.<\/p>\n<p>Rifletti!<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Cosa stai facendo per far sentire gli altri gioiosi? Come scuoti i cuscini di Madre Holle?<\/li>\n<li>Cosa fai per rendere te stesso gioioso? Quali piume ti servono dal cuscino di Madre Holle?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol><\/ol>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/mariposaproject.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/mariposa-lesson-4-immagine-4.jpg&#8221; title_text=&#8221;mariposa-lesson-4-immagine-4&#8243; align=&#8221;center&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; locked=&#8221;off&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_text ol_type=&#8221;lower-latin&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;18px&#8221; link_font=&#8221;||||on|||#F3932D|&#8221; link_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; header_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_2_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; header_2_font_size=&#8221;41px&#8221; header_3_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p>Puoi anche scrivere queste parole:<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Per scuotere le cose intorno a me e diffondere la gioia, ho bisogno di&#8230;&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Per scuotere me stesso e provare gioia, ho bisogno di&#8230;&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Datti tempo a sufficienza. \u00c8 possibile stampare la pagina da colorare alla fine della lezione e riflettere sulle domande mentre si colora.<\/p>\n<h2><a name=\"_Toc131015424\"><\/a>Esercizio 4: Uscire dal racconto con la copertina dorata<\/h2>\n<p>Se hai compiuto tutti i passi del processo di definizione degli ordini interni, molto probabilmente ti sentirai gi\u00e0 meglio nella tua vita. Tuttavia, scrivere i passi necessari (per sviluppare nuove risorse e relazioni, per liberarsi del vecchio e del marcio) non \u00e8 sufficiente. Bisogna mettere in pratica il discorso.<\/p>\n<p>Per questo motivo non si pu\u00f2 arrivare alla fine di un racconto troppo in fretta. A volte ci vogliono anni prima che sia possibile riprendere il controllo della propria vita e creare un nuovo ordine.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Il compito \u00e8 quello di formulare i passi per arrivarci e di verificare di tanto in tanto che si stia andando nella direzione giusta.<\/p>\n<h2><a name=\"_Toc131015425\"><\/a>Feedback e valutazione<\/h2>\n<p>Come risultato di questa lezione, come ti senti?<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][wpforms_selector form_id=&#8221;2630&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.23.1&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;][\/wpforms_selector][et_pb_text ol_type=&#8221;lower-latin&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.21.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;18px&#8221; link_font=&#8221;||||on|||#F3932D|&#8221; link_text_color=&#8221;#F3932D&#8221; header_font=&#8221;DM Sans||||||||&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#BF1824&#8243; 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delle cose. A questo scopo ti invitiamo a lavorare con l&#8217;aiuto di una fiaba popolare, &#8220;Madre Holle&#8221;, e a seguire i passi [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":2574,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"[et_pb_section fb_built=\"1\" _builder_version=\"4.19.2\" _module_preset=\"default\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_row _builder_version=\"4.19.2\" _module_preset=\"default\" locked=\"off\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_column type=\"4_4\" _builder_version=\"4.19.2\" _module_preset=\"default\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_text _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" text_font_size=\"18px\" header_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_2_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font_size=\"41px\" header_3_text_color=\"#F3932D\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"]\n<h2>Lesson 4: Creating your internal order<sup><a href=\"#note1\">[1]<\/a><\/sup><\/h2>\n<h3>Introduction:<\/h3>\nThe goal of this self-help coaching lesson is to help to think through different elements of your life, and to create and \u201cinternal order\u201d of things. We invite you to work with the help of a popular fairy tale \u201cMother Holle\u201d for this purpose, and follow the steps of the nice stepdaughter to reach the goal of getting a \u201cgold bath\u201d of Mother Holle. Working on ourselves through a story is an exciting task, but it is not at all straightforward. In a fairy tale, order is restored by the end, the hero of the tale takes a general journey and moves into a next stage of self-development.\n\nThis is our task too - to interpret the turns and 'codes' of the fairy tale for our own lives, to find the steps that will help us to become a golden daughter instead of a dirty one.\n\nBefore starting to work, assure that you have:\n<ul>\n \t<li>enough time: at least 45-50 minutes of undisturbed time<\/li>\n \t<li>enough and safe space to work without interruptions and being disturbed in your process<\/li>\n \t<li>you can use this planning tool alone or if you have a person of confidence, you can also invite others to do it with you.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>Objectives:<\/h3>\n[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=\"1_2,1_2\" _builder_version=\"4.19.2\" _module_preset=\"default\" locked=\"off\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_column type=\"1_2\" _builder_version=\"4.19.2\" _module_preset=\"default\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_blurb title=\"To help you to think through different areas of your life\" image=\"https:\/\/mariposaproject.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/cropped-colour-vertical.png\" icon_placement=\"left\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][\/et_pb_blurb][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=\"1_2\" _builder_version=\"4.19.2\" _module_preset=\"default\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_blurb title=\"To activate your internal care for yourself\" image=\"https:\/\/mariposaproject.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/cropped-colour-vertical.png\" icon_placement=\"left\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][\/et_pb_blurb][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_column _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" type=\"4_4\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_text _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" text_font_size=\"18px\" header_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_2_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font_size=\"41px\" header_3_text_color=\"#F3932D\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"]\n<h3>Time needed:<\/h3>\nat least 45 minutes, depending on personal tempo and needs\n<div class=\"et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_7  et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_light\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_text_inner\">\n\nYou can download the exercises of this lesson<span>\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/mariposaproject.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/mariposa_r2_lesson_4.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">HERE<\/a>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_column type=\"4_4\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_text quote_border_color=\"#BF1824\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" text_font_size=\"18px\" link_font=\"||||on|||#F3932D|\" link_text_color=\"#F3932D\" header_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_2_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font_size=\"41px\" header_3_text_color=\"#F3932D\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"]\n<h2>Exercise 1: Preparation for working with a fairy tale \u2013 setting the scene<\/h2>\nWhen you work with a fairy tale, we invite you to prepare a nice space for you to work for. Maybe put some nice music in, light a candle, make yourself a tea. You are going to go to a journey into the tale, so it is nice, if you prepare a fairy tale-like atmosphere around you.\n\nWe also encourage you to prepare all tools you need to use for working with the questions raised later. You will need pen and paper, and you might use colouring pencils, pens, markers, etc.\n\nPlease read through all the steps to know how to proceed in the next steps.\n<h2>Exercise 2: Preparation for working with a fairy tale \u2013 reading the tale<\/h2>\n<h3><em>What do you bring out of the tale?<\/em><\/h3>\nWhen we begin to work with ourselves through the Mother Holle fairy tale, let us first listen to or read the story, then sit back, close your eyes, and let the mood of the tale wash over us\u2026 and answer some questions. Read the questios before, and think about them after you read the tale!\n\nThink about it!\n<ul>\n \t<li>Can you find a colour from the tale? Bring it back with you!<\/li>\n \t<li>Can you find a smell from the tale? Bring it back with you!<\/li>\n \t<li>Where are you in the story? Who are there with you? What is your task at that place?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\nWrite down your answers! How much does your task there relate to what you need to do in your life? Think metaphorically.\n<h3>Mother Holle<sup><a href=\"#_ftn1\" name=\"_ftnref1\"><span><strong>[2]<\/strong><\/span><\/a><\/sup><\/h3>\nOnce upon a time there was a widow who had two daughters; one of them was beautiful and industrious, the other ugly and lazy. The mother, however, loved the ugly and lazy one best, because she was her own daughter, and so the other, who was only her stepdaughter, was made to do all the work of the house, and was quite the Cinderella of the family. Her stepmother sent her out every day to sit by the well in the high road, there to spin until she made her fingers bleed. Now it chanced one day that some blood fell on to the spindle, and as the girl stopped over the well to wash it off, the spindle suddenly sprang out of her hand and fell into the well. She ran home crying to tell of her misfortune, but her stepmother spoke harshly to her, and after giving her a violent scolding, said unkindly, \u2019As you have let the spindle fall into the well you may go yourself and fetch it out.\u2019\n\nThe girl went back to the well not knowing what to do, and at last in her distress she jumped into the water after the spindle.\u00a0 She remembered nothing more until she awoke and found herself in a beautiful meadow, full of sunshine, and with countless flowers blooming in every direction. She walked over the meadow, and presently she came upon a baker\u2019s oven full of bread, and the loaves cried out to her, \u2019Take us out, take us out, or alas! we shall be burnt to a cinder; we were baked through long ago.\u2019 So she took the bread-shovel and drew them all out.\n\nShe went on a little farther, till she came to a free full of apples. \u2019Shake me, shake me, I pray,\u2019 cried the tree; \u2019my apples, one and all, are ripe.\u2019 So she shook the tree, and the apples came falling down upon her like rain; but she continued shaking until there was not a single apple left upon it. Then she carefully gathered the apples together in a heap and walked on again.\n\nThe next thing she came to was a little house, and there she saw an old woman looking out, with such large teeth, that she was terrified, and turned to run away. But the old woman called after her, \u2019What are you afraid of, dear child? Stay with me; if you will do the work of my house properly for me, I will make you very happy. You must be very careful, however, to make my bed in the right way, for I wish you always to shake it thoroughly, so that the feathers fly about; then they say, down there in the world, that it is snowing; for I am Mother Holle.\u2019 The old woman spoke so kindly, that the girl summoned up courage and agreed to enter into her service.\n\nShe took care to do everything according to the old woman\u2019s bidding and every time she made the bed she shook it with all her might, so that the feathers flew about like so many snowflakes. The old woman was as good as her word: she never spoke angrily to her, and gave her roast and boiled meats every day.\n\nSo she stayed on with Mother Holle for some time, and then she began to grow unhappy. She could not at first tell why she felt sad, but she became conscious at last of great longing to go home; then she knew she was homesick, although she was a thousand times better off with Mother Holle than with her mother and sister. After waiting awhile, she went to Mother Holle and said, \u2019I am so homesick, that I cannot stay with you any longer, for although I am so happy here, I must return to my own people.\u2019 Then Mother Holle said, \u2019I am pleased that you should want to go back to your own people, and as you have served me so well and faithfully, I will take you home myself.\u2019\n\nThereupon she led the girl by the hand up to a broad gateway. The gate was opened, and as the girl passed through, a shower of gold fell upon her, and the gold clung to her, so that she was covered with it from head to foot. \u2019That is a reward for your industry,\u2019 said Mother Holle, and as she spoke she handed her the spindle which she had dropped into the well. The gate was then closed, and the girl found herself back in the old world close to her mother\u2019s house.\n\nAs she entered the courtyard, the cock who was perched on the well, called out:\n\n\u2019Cock-a-doodle-doo!\u00a0 Your golden daughter\u2019s come back to you.\u2019\n\nThen she went in, to her mother and sister, and as she was so richly covered with gold, they gave her a warm welcome. She related to them all that had happened, and when the mother heard how she had come by her great riches, she thought she should like her ugly, lazy daughter to go and try her fortune. So she made the sister go and sit by the well and spin, and the girl pricked her finger and thrust her hand into a thorn-bush, so that she might drop some blood on to the spindle; then she threw it into the well, and jumped in herself.\n\nLike her sister she awoke in the beautiful meadow, and walked over it till she came to the oven. \u2019Take us out, take us out, or alas! we shall be burnt to a cinder; we were baked through long ago,\u2019 cried the loaves as before. But the lazy girl answered, \u2019Do you think I am going to dirty my hands for you?\u2019 and walked on. Presently she came to the apple-tree. \u2019Shake me, shake me, I pray; my apples, one and all, are ripe,\u2019 it cried. But she only answered, \u2019A nice thing to ask me to do, one of the apples might fall on my head,\u2019 and passed on.\n\nAt last, she came to Mother Holle\u2019s house, and as she had heard all about the large teeth from her sister, she was not afraid of them, and engaged herself without delay to the old woman. The first day she was very obedient and industrious, and exerted herself to please Mother Holle, for she thought of the gold she should get in return. The next day, however, she began to dawdle over her work, and the third day she was more idle still; then she began to lie in bed in the mornings and refused to get up. Worse still, she neglected to make the old woman\u2019s bed properly, and forgot to shake it so that the feathers might fly about. So Mother Holle very soon got tired of her, and told her she might go. The lazy girl was delighted at this, and thought to herself, \u2019The gold will soon be mine.\u2019\n\nMother Holle led her, as she had led her sister, to the broad gateway; but as she was passing through, instead of the shower of gold, a great bucketful of pitch came pouring over her. \u2019That is in return for your services,\u2019 said the old woman, and she shut the gate. So the lazy girl had to go home covered with pitch, and the cock on the well called out as she saw her:\n\n\u2019Cock-a-doodle-doo! \u00a0\u00a0Your dirty daughter\u2019s come back to you.\u2019\n\nBut, try what she would, she could not get the pitch off and it stuck to her as long as she lived.\n\n&nbsp;\n<blockquote><a href=\"#_ftnref1\" name=\"_ftn1\"><span>[2]<\/span><\/a> This story was taken from: The Red Fairy Book by Andrew Lang<\/blockquote>\n&nbsp;\n\n[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" text_font_size=\"18px\" link_font=\"||||on|||#F3932D|\" link_text_color=\"#F3932D\" header_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_2_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font_size=\"41px\" header_3_text_color=\"#F3932D\" locked=\"off\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"]\n<h2>Exercise 3: Making an inner order - working with the fairy tale<\/h2>\n[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=\"3_4,1_4\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_column type=\"3_4\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_text _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" text_font_size=\"18px\" link_font=\"||||on|||#F3932D|\" link_text_color=\"#F3932D\" header_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_2_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font_size=\"41px\" header_3_text_color=\"#F3932D\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"]\n<h3><em>Step 1: The blood on the splinter<\/em><\/h3>\nThe heroes of this story is the beautiful stepdaughter, who is hard-working and nice. Still, she is the one, who is cutting her fingers with the splinter so that the splinter gets bloody. The splinter \u2013 which is a tool to make yarn, which is on it \u2013 can here be understood as one\u2019s \u201cthread of life\u201d.\n\nThe good girl is working hard, but even then her hard work is not appreciated. 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Do you feel it also now? Think about it. What are those things that \u201ccut your fingers\u201d, \u201cmake you bleed\u201d?\n\nYou can also sit down, and start writing everything that comes up. You can start writing with these sentence beginning:\n\n\u201cWhat makes me feel I am bleeding, is\u2026\u201d\n\n\u201cI am tired of \u2026..\u201d\n\n\u201c I feel exhausted, because\u2026\u201d\n\nAfter writing, give yourself time. Just close your eyes, and imagine, how it would be to wake up on a beautiful spring \/ summer field. Try to feel the breeze of the wind, the smells, imagine the colours.\n\nYou can spend as much time here as you can.\n\n[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=\"3_4,1_4\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" locked=\"off\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_column type=\"3_4\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_text _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" text_font_size=\"18px\" link_font=\"||||on|||#F3932D|\" link_text_color=\"#F3932D\" header_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_2_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font_size=\"41px\" header_3_text_color=\"#F3932D\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"]\n<h3><em>Step 2: The breads and the oven<\/em><\/h3>\nFrom the field the girl is going to the baker\u2019s oven, full of bread.\n\nBread can be understood as the main resource for people. Think about it!\n\nWhat kind of resources, things, tools do you have in your life! What do you own? What do you use? 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What are those elements of your list, which are actually not useful for you anymore? Maybe they were at one time, but right now they are just taking your space and time.\nYou can get rid of these. Think it through.<\/li>\n \t<li>There are some bread, which are not yet ready, still need some baking. What are those elements of your list, which are not yet at their full potential? Which you still would like to develop further? How?<\/li>\n \t<li>And there are breads, which are just perfect. What are those material and nonmaterial resources, that you can build upon?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol><\/ol>\nGive yourself enough time. You can print out the coloring page at the end of the lesson, and think over the questions while coloring.\n\n[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=\"3_4,1_4\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" locked=\"off\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_column type=\"3_4\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_text _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" text_font_size=\"18px\" link_font=\"||||on|||#F3932D|\" link_text_color=\"#F3932D\" header_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_2_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font_size=\"41px\" header_3_text_color=\"#F3932D\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"]\n<h3><em>Step 3: Apple-picking<\/em><\/h3>\nThe next step on the road of the hard-working girl is the picking of the apples. 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They are not good, nurturing anymore, but at the same time they are destroying other relationships. Which one do you consider into this category? How much is it possible to separate or split them?<\/li>\n \t<li>There are relationships, which are just good as they are. It is also a pleasure to think about them, and rewarding. They fill you with joy. Put them into the second category, and think of them as resources when needed.<\/li>\n \t<li>There are those relationships, which are not yet mature. You have to provide them \u201csunshine\u201d to ripe. Which are these relationships? How do you nurture them to get good and fulfilling?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\nGive yourself enough time. You can print out the coloring page at the end of the lesson, and think over the questions while coloring.\n\n[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=\"3_4,1_4\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" locked=\"off\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_column type=\"3_4\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][et_pb_text ol_type=\"lower-latin\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" text_font_size=\"18px\" link_font=\"||||on|||#F3932D|\" link_text_color=\"#F3932D\" header_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_2_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font_size=\"41px\" header_3_text_color=\"#F3932D\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"]\n<h3><em>Step 4: Shaking out the feathers<\/em><\/h3>\nThe last place the good girl is reaching, the house of Mother Holle. There is still work to do: to shake the bed (duvets), until the feathers are falling, causing people joy.\n\nThink about it!\n<ol>\n \t<li>What are you doing to make others feel joyful? How do you shake the pillows of Mother Holle?<\/li>\n \t<li>What are you doing to make YOURSELF joyful? 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You can print out the coloring page at the end of the lesson, and think over the questions while coloring.\n<h2><a name=\"_Toc131015424\"><\/a>Exercise 4: Walking out of the tale with golden cover<\/h2>\nIf you have been making all the steps of the internal order-setting, most probably you already feel better in your life. However writing down the necessary steps (to develop new resources, relationships, to get rid of old and rotten), is not enough. You have to walk the talk.\n\nTherefore you may not get to the end of a tale too quickly. Sometimes it takes years before you can really take back the control of your life, and make up the new order.\n\nThe task here is to formulate the steps to get there, and to check from time to time that you are going into the right direction.\n<h2><a name=\"_Toc131015425\"><\/a><a name=\"_Toc131015461\"><\/a>Feedback and evaluation<\/h2>\nAs a result of this lesson how do you feel:\n\n[\/et_pb_text][wpforms_selector form_id=\"1835\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" theme_builder_area=\"post_content\"][\/wpforms_selector][et_pb_text ol_type=\"lower-latin\" _builder_version=\"4.21.0\" _module_preset=\"default\" text_font_size=\"18px\" link_font=\"||||on|||#F3932D|\" link_text_color=\"#F3932D\" header_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font=\"DM Sans||||||||\" header_2_text_color=\"#BF1824\" header_2_font_size=\"41px\" header_3_text_color=\"#F3932D\" global_colors_info=\"{}\" 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